The result is Bending Toward the Sun, a collaboration between mother and daughter that brings together the stories of three generations of a family to understand the legacy that unites, inspires, and haunts them all. A founding board member and past president of the nonprofit Alliance for Children's Rights, she has worked at a major Los Angeles law firm, served as a Ninth Circuit Court of Appeals law clerk, and is a member of the board of directors for several nonprofit organizations, including the Los Angeles Music Center.
Recently Leslie was appointed by the mayor of Los Angeles to a panel to devise a new cultural plan for the city. She lives in Los Angeles, California, with her husband, two children, and stepson. As both a mother and a daughter, I found it deeply touching. See All Customer Reviews. Shop Books. Read an excerpt of this book! Add to Wishlist. USD Sign in to Purchase Instantly. Overview A miraculous lesson in courage and recovery, Bending Toward the Sun tells the story of a unique family bond forged in the wake of brutal terror.
Show More. Average Review. Write a Review. Related Searches. View Product. Rating details. Sort order. Rita Lurie is a Holocaust survivor. Her story is remarkably similar to Anne Frank's. Her family's hiding place was nowhere near as carefully-planned as the Frank family's though. They fled Nazi soldiers in the night and eventually found a family friend who let them stay with him. Imagine 15 people, including children and a baby, hiding in an attic for two years with no food supply mapped out.
The children couldn't run around a Rita Lurie is a Holocaust survivor. The children couldn't run around a make noise and be children. They had no heat source. They didn't even have much light. They lived on what the men could forage at night. Needless to say, they were very sick and malnourished when they finally emerged. Rita was five when they went into hiding, but the experience left a deep and lasting mark on her psyche. Now, where this memoir is different from others that I've read is that it doesn't stop with Liberation.
That's only the beginning, in fact. How does such a horrific experience mark your life forever after? Also, how does it mark your children and their children? It's not like you come out of hiding and return to a perfectly normal life. Spiegelman shows that his father was hard to live with, and sometimes it was because of his experiences as a Holocaust survivor.
He's a hoarder and a control freak. Spiegelman's mom, also a survivor, was clinically depressed. That opened my eyes a little bit. So when I was offered this book for review, I jumped on it. I was surprised by the ways that the Holocaust affected this family's life. Rita was a little fearful to let her children out of her sight. Her children picked up on that, as children do, and became overly fearful as well.
It's even carrying on to the next generation. There are also the cycles of depression. I had to admire Rita, because she is a fighter, but it seemed almost inevitable that the depression would come around for her again. She tries so hard, but how do you overcome something like the Holocaust? And how does your family react when you spiral down? If, like me, you're interested in the Holocaust but hadn't really thought about the lasting effects in the survivors' lives, pick this up. It was very readable and very thought-provoking. Oct 16, Sally Wessely rated it really liked it. Rita Lurie is an amazing woman, and so is her daughter.
I am grateful that they shared their stories and their histories with all of us. This is more than just another memoir or story about the Holocaust because it gives understanding to the affect the Holocaust has had on future generations. Leslie Gilbert-lurie gave me great insight when she included the definition of holocaust in her prologue to the book.
The analogy to the trial by by fire that so many went through is summed up beautifully wh Rita Lurie is an amazing woman, and so is her daughter. The analogy to the trial by by fire that so many went through is summed up beautifully when she says: The fire of hate that the Nazis lit did not consume everything Their genes had been affected by the intensity of the heat, but grow they did, and thrive they would, as my mother would put it, "bending toward the sun.
I am married to a wonderful man who was born to survivors of the Holocaust. This book confirmed that his is a shared experience found in many children whose parents went the life altering, traumatic experience suffered by those who survived a fire that meant to destroy them and their entire race. Mar 02, Jude rated it it was ok. Liked the first part a lot because I learned more about the Holocaust. Especially liked the true to life depiction of the family that hid the Jews. The section about the transference of something akin to PTSD to the next generation of Holocaust survivors even though they are raised in a peaceful environment was interesting for the first 30 percent.
Then it seemed to degrade into navel-gazing and flimsy theories of trait inheritance. The second generation Holocaust survivors in this family are int Liked the first part a lot because I learned more about the Holocaust. The second generation Holocaust survivors in this family are interesting but I believe the author fails to support her theory of the inheritance of a fragile personality and she drags us along on her failed quest. Not a waste of time but the author fails to support her theory.
Jul 26, Ann rated it liked it. I enjoyed the first half of the book more than the second half. It was an interesting story about a Holocaust survivor and how it affected her life and her children's lives forever. Near the end I just wanted to finish. Sep 08, Jasonian rated it liked it. I will give this three stars because Rita's story about her childhood in the Holocaust is tragic, moving, and delivered in a very matter-of-fact fashion that seems to amplify the horror of it. The first third of the book, delivered in Rita's words, were my favorite. The rest of the book, about Leslie's life and growing up as what I can best describe as a wildly codependent, neurotic brat, was less powerful.
I mean, it had power in that I routinely found myself thinking, "Don't blame your needine I will give this three stars because Rita's story about her childhood in the Holocaust is tragic, moving, and delivered in a very matter-of-fact fashion that seems to amplify the horror of it. I mean, it had power in that I routinely found myself thinking, "Don't blame your neediness on the Holocaust. I have no doubt that children of Holocaust survivors take on all kinds of issues because of who is raising them.
But, what I saw described of Leslie seemed more like a super annoying pre-teen. Perhaps the link between the Holocaust and her attitude needed a stronger link. Maybe she didn't articulate it properly. I was probably more apt to buy into her argument if at times she didn't show a conscious manipulation of her mother for her own means.
The one that stands out is when she wanted to come home from some camp and she said she knew what to say to her mother to convince her to come get her in the middle of the night - just hours before the end of the camp. It came off as unbelievably selfish and manipulative. I felt bad for the parents, not because of the trauma in their past, but because they had a child who was using it to her own ends. Leslie's argument would be strengthened if we actually saw that the other children had the same issues.
It seems throughout the book that they were the opposite of Leslie. They weren't as clingy, or needy, or neurotic. It is only in the final chapter of the book she briefly mentions each sibling having felt some impact of their mother's depression. It was kind of a too little, too late situation. Jul 27, Cheryl rated it liked it. Bending Toward the Sun is a heart-wrenching, emotional memoir. Leslie Gilbert-Lurie with the help of her mother, Rita Lurie, shares their story of surviving through hell and back. When Rita was just five years old, her family as well as their friends received orders from the Gestapo to report to the train station, as they were to be deported from their home town of Urzejowice in Poland.
Rita, her family and their relatives vanished through the night. They left behind their home and possessions t Bending Toward the Sun is a heart-wrenching, emotional memoir. They left behind their home and possessions to seek safety from the Germans. His name is Stashik Grajolski. For two years Rita and about eleven other family members lived in Mr.
They eventually were able to make their way out of Poland and set foot on American soil. Bending Toward the Sun tells this amazing story of courage, sadness, and family. I like how this book was broken out into three sections. The first section tells the story of Rita Lurie and her incredible journey.
The next two sections are about Leslie and her daughter Mikaela with Rita. They remember their time together from the past to the present. I thought this was a lovely story. I got to know Rita and found her to be a nice woman. This was one memoir I was happy to read. Two really good non fiction novels. One thing though is that at the beginning as I was just getting to know Rita, I found all the people she came upon hard to keep straight.
Other than this factor, I did like this book. Mar 31, Nancy rated it it was ok Shelves: adult-nonfiction , holocaust-adult. In this three-generational memoir, Gilbert-Lurie tells the story of her mother, Rita, who survived the holocaust hiding with most of her extended family in a farmhouse attic. Rita then comes with her father, sister, and stepmother to the United States, where she has a difficult time growing up, and a troubled relationship with her stepmother. The second part of the memoir is Gilbert-Lurie's, as she talks about the effects of being the daughter of a survivor, feeling responsible, from a very youn In this three-generational memoir, Gilbert-Lurie tells the story of her mother, Rita, who survived the holocaust hiding with most of her extended family in a farmhouse attic.
The second part of the memoir is Gilbert-Lurie's, as she talks about the effects of being the daughter of a survivor, feeling responsible, from a very young age, for her mother's happiness. Finally, there is the story of Mikaela, Rita's granddaughter, who develops severe separation anxiety, which her mother attributes to the effects of the holocaust on a third generation.
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While this certainly is a likely aspect of the problem, Mikaela seems overly and unhealthily indulged in this, and ultimately it was frustrating reading about a family so overly enmeshed. Feb 03, Abby rated it really liked it. This was beautifully written. It was heartbreaking and emotional to read, and yet it was incredibly awe-inspiring. It depicts the aftermath of the Holocaust from the perspective of three generations--the survivor grandmother , the successful professional mother , and t This was beautifully written.
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It depicts the aftermath of the Holocaust from the perspective of three generations--the survivor grandmother , the successful professional mother , and the hopeful child daughter. This book will move you. It will make you cry, but it will also help you realize that no matter the circumstances of the past Thank you, Nancy, for letting me borrow this Aug 28, April rated it really liked it Shelves: non-fiction , for-review , holocaust-memoirs. If the sins of the father are visited upon the son, then are the sorrows of the mother to be carried on by the daughter? Rita and some of her family members survived the Holocaust by hiding in the attic of a family friend.
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Rita's tale is fascinating, I can't help but ache for her. To be honest, I did cry a bit while reading her story. Read If the sins of the father are visited upon the son, then are the sorrows of the mother to be carried on by the daughter? Read the rest of my review here View 2 comments.
Aug 28, Laura rated it liked it Shelves: world-war-ii , memoir. The first part of this book was really interesting because it described the life of a Holocaust survivor after the war, which isn't a story that's often told. But after that the book really seemed to drag on; it was like the author was just trying to make the book longer by adding in mundane details. I would recommend it if you are interested in WWII books though. Mar 13, Janice rated it it was amazing. This is an amazing book! It's a gift to all mothers and daughters and families who are trying to understand WHY things are the way they are.
The book is more than about the Holocaust, a truly horrific experience and time in our world, but about how children and grandchildren are affected by the trauma a parent goes through. I am jealous of Leslie for having the time with her mother and getting her mother and family to share all they did.
What a gift! I found out a few years ago that my birth mot This is an amazing book! I found out a few years ago that my birth mother had died - and I never got the chance to talk with her or get to know her. The ways in which Leslie was able to come to understand and demonstrate how her mother's trauma affected her was brilliant. This memoir speaks volumes and left my head and heart reeling.
Working with those affected by domestic violence or other issues - I will always be thinking about the impact of this and could the negative impacts have been altered, changed, improved with counseling and support? I find myself self-evaluating more of why I am the way I am and the way I parent. I wish my daughter would read this and consider my past as it translated to her growing up - and my sisters, my aunt, and friends. Powerful on many levels. Expertly and loving written, Leslie Gilbert-Lurie!
Nov 17, Amy-Lynn Vautour rated it really liked it. It was a good read haha, get it? It really delved into the experience of people who survived the second world war and what sort of aftermath it had in their lives, their children's lives and so on. We don't often think about effects being something that lasts that long. We don't really see the ways that these things can go on and on for generations in the form of fears, anxieties, determinations, and more good and bad. It really opened my eyes to the effects that the war had my family membe It was a good read haha, get it?
It really opened my eyes to the effects that the war had my family members and even myself, and probably my stepchildren as I recount stories to them. I only gave it four stars because it did lose my interest at a couple points and I think better editing could have fixed that before it went to print. But, overall, it was great and I do recommend it. Oct 20, Teri rated it really liked it. She ended up in NY and then Chicago after her father remarried. She did not get along with her stepmom and her dad was broken. She fell in love with Frank and had 2 daughters and a son.
She had a great marriage but depression, PTSD etc stayed with her. She overcame mother daughter memoir about the effects the holocaust had on both. She overcame it but had bouts.
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Most severe incident was treated with ECT. Tours with daughter to to schools to talk about her story Feb 17, Karin rated it it was amazing Shelves: memoir , favorites. Thoughtful and poignant, this memoir is difficult to put down. I am inspired by the generations of love within these pages. It is admiral and awe-inspiring what both Lurie women have gone on to achieve in her lives. Highly recommend. Jun 06, Erica Char rated it it was ok. Buy this book. Zeebra Books. Show other formats.
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